Loving yourself – A revisit
This one is a sprouting of the seed planted in one of my previous posts… (see here) It is something that most of us ignore so frequently in our lives. It seems meaningless for some, and too self-fulfilling for others. And while, its OK to talk about all other kinds of love, this one garners only a few speculative glances, but never stirs any emotions within…Why? I really don’t know! Maybe because we are so used to the idea of love being love for others. Anything for yourself has only self-serving connotations.. But that’s only stereotyping it, I believe.
Unconditional love begins from self and ends there too… A full circle! But what really constitutes “love for self ” is a major confusion! It has been for me, for quite a while. Even the idea of “self love” was disconcerting for some time… How can I possibly love myself when I can see flaws staring at me everyday that I so want to get rid of?! But thats exactly why I should! Am I confusing you too much?! OK, let me state it plainly… Acceptance is the key to loving yourself (and others too)..!
Accepting myself the way I am… But even this is a tricky thing.. Accepting means not loathing myself when I end up doing something wrong, but loathing the act or the habit… And not kicking myself for it but the act or habit. That being said, if you think it gives you a license to do nothing about your flawed bits, you have got it totally wrong!
Loving yourself means accepting and polishing yourself. It means a constant personal growth. It means letting your potentials and possibilities become a reality…It means letting go of your past inhibitions, fears, angst and moving on… Yes, loving yourself means cherishing the euphoric moments and yet embracing the devastating ones with strength.. It means learning to love your life and endeavouring to live wholeheartedly…It means giving yourself another chance for a happy and blissful life…!
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Sunday, 30 September 2007 at 2:30 am
Wow, very well said. Something I have struggled with and was deceived into not realizing it. Loving ourselves doesn’t take away from anyone, it adds to love for others, I think.
As far as past mistake, I have realized some hide theirs or just aren’t bothered by them…I got this in an e-mail a while back “When Satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future!” Too true! Like you, I am trying to grow…
God Bless You, gypsygirl! I do see that we have much in common and I respect your insight so much. I’m glad we’re on this journey together!
Sunday, 30 September 2007 at 2:53 am
Thanks again! I am really grinning from ear to ear!
I guess we all struggle with these things, some of us more than others. I have found myself in the midst of such conflict many times, and I realised that the only thing we can try and do is, maintain our souls in the best and truest forms possible, so that at the end of the journey, the creator welcomes us back with love and pride rather than disgust and disappointment.. And its never too late to try and be what you want to be. That being said, we sometimes tend to compare ourselves unfairly with others, and instead of cherishing the uniqueness we were blessed with, we try and conform to standards… I have learnt it the hard way, true happiness comes when you accept your differences, and use them in the right way..And yes, never say never! 
Always try and then try some more! 
I am glad we have found common ground, and hope we can continue this journey together, like you said!
Tuesday, 2 October 2007 at 5:48 am
Well, you are absolutely unique and I have also learned to recognize and caution myself against comparisons. “Room for improvement” applies to all.
Tuesday, 2 October 2007 at 3:49 pm
Exactly! Tons of room for improvement for me!
But I am still happy with myself now… hehe..
Thursday, 22 November 2007 at 12:03 am
thanks for the GREAT post! Very useful…